Relationship stress is never easy. But combining that with the need to practice social isolation can take a fragile relationship to a potential breaking point. You may feel that you are walking on eggshells and are fearful of saying the wrong thing and having a fight erupt. Or the silence between you and your partner may create a tension you feel throughout your whole body. Both are painful and overwhelming.
We all start our significant relationships hoping for stable, loving relationships that will last a lifetime. We all want to feel loved, special and that we matter to our partner. We are wired for this type of connection and when we find it, the chaos of the world can feel less daunting with the comfort of our partner by our side. However, when we do not have that sense of connection, we feel stressed, alone and less equipped to face the challenges that life throws at us.
Sadly, many couples think there may be no hope to make change. They have likely tried some strategies with limited or no results. They give up on the dream to feel close and happy together and they keep living with the same issues and problems. Or, they reach a point and think they would be better off to separate believing they are not meant to be together.
But, it doesn’t have to end this way.
We understand that the prospect of getting help to improve your relationship may feel uncomfortable. Some common barriers that get in the way of reaching out for the help you need include:
- A previous negative therapy experience
These are all understandable objections. Good therapy is expensive and it requires an investment of time, energy and a willingness to work through some tough emotional experiences. But if it could mean that you could feel close, safe, loved and taken care of in your relationship – would that be worth it?
We believe in relationships. And we believe in the power of using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples transform their relationships. EFT is a systematic map of steps and stages that recognizes the negative cycles many relationships get stuck in. When followed and implemented, EFT creates new ways to rebuild trust, regain acceptance and reduce conflict in your relationship.
EFT also teaches couples how to:
- Improve communication and learn to get unstuck in conflict
- Understand the emotions underlying old reactive behaviour
- Repair damage from past hurts and disappointments
- Have more fun and adventure in your relationship
Emotionally Focused therapy is one of the most successful approaches to relationship therapy with recovery rates between 70-75% and improvement rates of 90%.
by Mary Joan Brinson MSW, RSW