The Relationship Centre

A New Approach to a New Year

2020 was a hard year. Many people are relieved to see it come to an end.

As we begin a new year, we want to hold the hope for better days ahead.

Instead of the typical New Year’s resolutions that are typical for the kick-off of a new year, I encourage you to instead ask yourself 3 simple questions.

These questions are designed to bring more happiness and less stress to your life in 2021. Who could not use some of that right now?

The questions are focused on simplifying your approach to life in general. This will help you eliminate what is not important and give you more time and energy for what is. It will have you saying no to the things that make you feel bad and saying yes to the things that make you feel happy.

Sounds simple? It is, but do not dismiss the powerful benefits that can come from these 3 simple questions. They can help you lead a more fulfilling life.

The 3 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself This Year

What are 3 things you enjoy doing that you want to do more of?

Taking hot baths? Going for walks? Reading a good book? Meditating? Practicing Yoga? Learning a new craft or hobby? Baking? Woodworking? Fishing? Nature hikes? Bird watching? Practicing gratitude? Watching new documentaries?

This is a simple yet powerful question to answer. It helps you focus on what makes you happy and brings you pleasure. Record your answers in a journal or a notebook with the intention of making more time to engage in some of these activities. And if you would like to take it one step further, schedule some of the activities into your weekly calendar to ensure you make time for these happiness-inducing activities.

What are 3 things you would like to do less of?

Stressing? Rushing? Complaining? Procrastinating? Eating out of boredom? Being self-critical? Drinking too much? Being pessimistic? Not getting enough sleep? Saying yes when you want to say no?
Although it may be hard to imagine, you can do less of these things. Some may be habits that you have fallen into. Some may be patterns of behaviour or belief systems that have been reinforced over a long period of time. But the good news is that change is possible. Life is too short wasting time doing things that do not serve you so be bold enough to admit when that is the case and take steps to make change. It is okay to start small and to ask for help if you need it.

What are 3 things you want to evolve or grow into?

This could be anything that leaves you feeling happy and inspired to achieve some growth or improvement. It could be to improve a specific skill, enhance your performance in a sport, learning something new, trying some creative new recipes, or exploring a hobby you have always been interested to try. As humans, we thrive when we are growing which brings a sense of happiness.

As you begin the New Year, use these questions to focus your intention in a more positive and empowering way.

And if you need help to get on track for a happier, more fulfilling year, let one of our therapists help get you moving in the right direction.

by: Mary Joan Brinson MSW, RSW

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